Social (adj.) – [soh-shuhl] – pertaining to, devoted to, or characterized by friendly companionship or relations.

SOCIAL networking. SOCIAL applications. SOCIAL technology. SOCIAL media. All of which are based on the interactions and participation of people.

No one will want to socialize with you if you’re annoying. I’m sure you’re yelling at this blog post right now saying “WTF, I’m not annoying!” Yeah. No one will ever think or admit to being a nuisance. Truth is, we all get obnoxious. Especially when we have the ability to post Tweets, Facebook updates, and comments whenever and wherever the hell we want.

Personally, I get the most disgruntled when I get a bunch of crap thrown my way from people that I don’t know nor have the slightest interest in getting to know. Be relevant.

So how do we simmer down on the annoying-ness and pump up our circle of bff’s?

Find people who are into the same stuff you are. This way, you’re all on the same level and can build on conversations and everyone is able to have an input and participate.

Be a good friend. This means not overpowering the conversation with jabber and spam and LISTENING to what other people say. Commend them for their accomplishments. Also, don’t be an @$$hole and be sure take everything with a grain of salt.

Don’t get pissed if someone doesn’t want to be your friend. Maybe they’re just not that into you.

Bake some pie. Everyone loves a good host. Be welcoming and hospitable. Invite people to participate and say “Thank You” when they do.

With friends come mutual contacts who already feel comfortable with their friends, so the transition to being your buddy doesn’t take much effort and the trust is already somewhat established.